8 Signs You're Being Manipulated and How to Stop It!

Have you ever had a conversation that left you feeling confused, guilty, or even questioning your own memory? Sometimes, people use certain behaviors to influence others in ways that might not be very honest or healthy. Recognizing these signs can help you protect your feelings, set boundaries, and feel confident in your relationships.

Here are some common ways people may try to steer situations or emotions without you realizing it. By noticing these signs, you can stay true to yourself and avoid feeling controlled.

Do You Feel Guilty Without a Clear Reason?

People who want to influence you might try to make you feel guilty, even when you’ve done nothing wrong. Phrases like “If you cared, you would do this for me” can make you feel like you’re in the wrong. But remember: your feelings matter too, and you have the right to choose without guilt.

Are You Often Compared to Others?

Sometimes, people will compare you to others to make you feel insecure or less confident. Statements like, “No one else has a problem with this,” can leave you feeling alone or out of place. This behavior may be intended to make you change yourself to “fit in” with what you want.

Are there Constant complaints directed at You?

Negative or complaining, especially when directed at you, can drain your energy and make you feel like you’re not doing enough. This often happens when the person wants you to take on their worries or adjust your actions to make them feel better.

Are They Giving You the Silent Treatment?

The silent treatment, or suddenly withdrawing attention, can make you feel anxious or unsure of yourself. It’s often used to make you crave their approval or wonder if you’ve done something wrong, even if you haven’t. Feeling this way may be a signal to protect your peace.

Do They Make Big Issues Out of Small Problems?

Some people exaggerate small issues to create urgency or drama. For example, they might make a minor mistake, which seems like a huge deal to get you to react quickly or do what they want. This can make you feel pressured, so take a moment to pause and think if the situation really is that serious.

Do They Deny Saying or Doing Certain Things?

When someone denies things that happened or says you’re “imagining things,” it can be very confusing. This can make you question your own memory or judgment. This behavior is sometimes called “gaslighting” and can harm your confidence.

Do They Make Hurtful Comments Disguised as Jokes?

Sometimes, people hide criticism within jokes, making it hard to respond without seeming overly sensitive. They may say something hurtful and then laugh it off, claiming, “I’m only joking!” Trusting your feelings and letting them know if something doesn’t feel right to you is okay.

Do They Push Small Boundaries Little by Little?

Some people start with small requests or favors and gradually ask for more. This slow increase can make you feel pressured without you noticing right away. Respecting your own limits is key; if you feel uncomfortable, it’s okay to say no.

Being able to spot these signs helps you protect your peace, set boundaries, and stay confident in your relationships. If you’re interested in learning more about these behaviors and how to handle them, go into more detail in my latest video. Watch the full video below for practical tips for dealing with these situations calmly and confidently.