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Are You a Priority or an Option? How to Tell the Difference. ask me anything effective communication self-worth toxic relationships Feb 09, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie: I caught feelings for a guy. I’m in America, and he’s in Africa. He says there’s no rush for a relationship. At first, I thought we were dating, but him saying that is confusing.

Now I’m at a point where I feel kinda foolish, like he had a change of...

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Can You Rebuild a Friendship After Betrayal? ask me anything boundaries healthy relationships life lessons self-improvement Jan 19, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie: I haven't spoken to my best friend in a couple of years because before she was married she slept with my boyfriend. I haven't spoken to either of them since I found out. I miss my best friend and I want to be friends with her again but I can't forgive her for what...

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Why Saying 'Yes' Too Often Could Be Draining Your Energy authenticity boundaries boundary setting people pleasing people-pleasers Jan 15, 2025

Have you ever found yourself agreeing to do something, only to regret it moments later? Maybe it’s taking on an extra project at work, volunteering for an event, or even saying yes to plans when all you really wanted was a quiet evening at home. It’s easy to fall into the habit of...

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Understanding and Healing When Friends Hurt You ask me anything authenticity boundaries effective communication people pleasing self-improvement Jan 12, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I've been going through a hard time recently. My mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness and I'm feeling overwhelmed and depressed. To make things worse my best friend has completely abandoned me. I can't believe she did this and it's making things even harder...

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Prioritize Yourself Without Guilt: Why Self-Care Is the Ultimate Power Move boundary setting emotional health people pleasing Jan 08, 2025

Be honest — how often do you put everyone else’s needs before yours? Maybe you think taking time for yourself feels selfish, or maybe you're scared people will think you don’t care. Sound familiar?

Here's the truth: Caring for yourself doesn’t make you selfish. It...

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How to Handle Being Ghosted ama ask me anything relationship advice relationship tips toxic relationships Jan 05, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie, How do you cope with ghosting and moving on when you were left with no apartment, no money, no car, no savings, and he took it all? The last text was December 2nd and I don't know how to survive this. I was in a committed relationship of 4 years, now I'm single.

--Totally...

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