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Authentic Connections, Boundaries, and Relationships
Setting boundaries is very important to maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your well-being. However, it can be particularly challenging in toxic relationships where the other person may react negatively or try to manipulate you into feeling guilty. Despite these difficulties,...
You can feel it deep inside. There is something missing but you don’t quite know what it is.
You might feel scared that your friends or partner don’t really care about you.
You might feel under (nearly) constant threat of making them mad or even leaving you.
Or maybe the...
"Our deepest Fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." – Marianne Williamson.
Fear can make us feel stuck. We don't try new things or share our true selves because we fear failure or judgment. But here's the truth: Fear is holding...
The short answer is yes, you can overcome people-pleasing. As you work to overcome people-pleasing you will be challenged and you will become more confident.
Overcoming people-pleasing is challenging because doing things differently will make you feel scared and anxious–it goes against your...
Many years ago I was at a self-development conference and the speaker said, “The quality of your life will depend on the amount of uncertainty you can tolerate.”
That quote stuck with me. I attended the conference in the early days of grad school and I often thought about how my...
Hello. My husband has not even had sex with me the last 6 weeks or barely even touches me unless I initiate it first. My love language is touch, I know his is acts or service and words of affirmation. I have talked to him about the lack of touch lately but he says he isn't that type of guy and he...
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