Are you tired of constantly falling short of expectations, whether set by society or yourself? 

Do you find yourself criticizing your every move, appearance, or achievement? 

Have you noticed that this habit of self-criticism is affecting your relationships and overall well-being?

It's all too ea...

In a world where we often seek validation from others to feel good about ourselves, the journey towards self-acceptance and releasing the need for approval is crucial. How usually do we rely on others to affirm our worthiness, measuring our value by external standards? 

The quest for approval can b...

Recently, the teenage daughter of a client of mine accused her mother of holding a grudge against her grandmother (my client’s mother). My client had a difficult relationship with her mother and had, over the course of her therapy with me, set up various rules she enforced frequently because of her ...

I’ve been thinking a lot about blame recently. 

I have a client who fights with his wife A LOT. And, neither one of them seems to be able to stop the fights.

I’ve pointed out to him that he blames her for nearly everything he’s feeling.

If she doesn’t like something he did and she tells him, he b...

What scares you? Does being thought of as selfish scare you?

Let's talk about selfishness--what it is and how to tell if you are being selfish. It’s a concern I frequently hear from my clients.

The difficulty with figuring out this question is that it is not an either or proposition. It’s a balan...

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband is throwing his anxiety on me. How do I change this? Thank you!!

--Anxious Annie

Dear Anxious Annie: This is one of my most frequent questions. People really struggle around how not to be so affected by other people's emotions.

When our partners, friends, or family memb...