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I'm taking my work stress out on my husband. How do I stop? ask me anything effective communication marriage perspective relationship advice toxic relationships Jul 06, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My boss drives me crazy and when I get home from work I find that I take it out on my husband. I'm cranky with him and he doesn't deserve to be treated that way. What can I do?

--Unintentionally Cranky

Dear Unintentionally Cranky: I think we've all been in this situation! Our exter...

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How do I get my husband to change? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication perspective relationship advice relationship tips Jun 29, 2023

Dear Julie, My husband and I have been married for 7 years and there are several things he does that drive me crazy. I've tried talking to him about what I need him to do differently, but he won't change and I don't understand why. Can you help me understanding my husband and why he won't change?

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How do I get my husband to do tasks without nagging him? ama ask me anything effective communication marriage relationship tips relationships self-improvement Jun 22, 2023

Hi Dr. Julie, My husband has ADHD and I try very hard not to parent him when he doesn’t complete a task or completes it so quickly that he isn’t thorough. I often will go back and complete it myself, but then I feel resentful.

I have committed to not nagging him about these things as it doesn’t fe...

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I upset my husband and I don't know why. Can you help? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication life lessons marriage relationship tips relationships Jun 15, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband and I have been married for about 15 years and I'm getting tired of how he treats me. He gets angry with me because I "touch his nerve." But I don't always know what that "nerve" is. I have noticed he gets upset with me if I get anxious about something he is doing, like ho...

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How do I make friends? ama ask me anything effective communication healthy relationships life lessons self-improvement Jun 08, 2023

Hello Dr Julie! Post pandemic, post divorce, post helpful therapy process I have few friends. It is not familiar for me to be so solitary but I live in a state where folks are resistant to deeper emotional relating or making casual connections without years of well established experience.

I use fe...

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How do I set boundaries assertively without feeling guilty? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication emotional health healthy relationships Jun 01, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: I say yes a lot because I always feel guilty when I say no. But it's starting to be a problem. Right now, I need to set a boundary with my sister who wants to throw me a big birthday party at my house. I don't want a big party for my birthday and I don't want a party at my house. How...

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