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How do I get my husband to change? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication perspective relationship advice relationship tips Jun 29, 2023

Dear Julie, My husband and I have been married for 7 years and there are several things he does that drive me crazy. I've tried talking to him about what I need him to do differently, but he won't change and I don't understand why. Can you help me understanding my husband and why he won't change?

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What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? effective communication emotional health marriage perspective relationship advice relationship tips self-improvement Jun 24, 2023

When it comes to relationships, there's no one-size-fits-all advice that applies to everyone. But when deciding whether or not to pursue a relationship, it can be helpful to consider what makes up a healthy union. Navigating love and commitment isn't always easy — but understanding the components of...

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Types of Abusive Relationships effective communication healthy relationships relationship advice relationship tips relationships resilience self-improvement toxic relationships trauma Jun 17, 2023

Do you ever feel like your relationship isn't what it used to be? The dynamics are off, and something's not quite right, but you can't seem to put your finger on it? You might be in an abusive relationship. Abuse can take many forms – physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual abuse all happen within re...

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How do I tell if my shy neighbor is interested in me? ama ask me anything effective communication relationship advice relationship tips May 11, 2023

A man I'm interested in acts shy around me. Is he interested or not? What do I do?

Dear Dr. Julie: I am a 44-year-old woman who divorced 2 years ago. The marriage was an abusive one, with a husband who demonstrated narcissistic behaviors. I am now open to dating again. I've become acquainted with a...

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My husband and I have different love languages. Is our marriage doomed? ama ask me anything effective communication healthy relationships relationship advice relationship tips relationships May 03, 2023

My husband and I have different love languages. Is our marriage doomed?

Dear Dr. Julie: My husband and I have been married just over 5 years and we are fighting a lot lately. I recently read about love languages and it seems that we have incompatible love languages. I love words of affirmation and ...

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Is my boyfriend really committed to me? ama ask me anything boundaries effective communication healthy relationships relationship advice Apr 20, 2023

Dear Dr. Julie: My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while. He and I have agreed to be exclusive but I can't tell how committed he is to the relationship. Sometimes I don't hear from him for a day and he often makes plans with his friends without checking in with me first. It hurts my fee...

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