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Have you ever found yourself agreeing to do something, only to regret it moments later? Maybe it’s taking on an extra project at work, volunteering for an event, or even saying yes to plans when all you really wanted was a quiet evening at home. It’s easy to fall into the habit of saying "yes" too o...
Do you pride yourself on being the “go-to” person for everyone around you? Do you bend over backward to keep others happy—even if it leaves you feeling drained or unappreciated?
While it’s natural to want to help others, people-pleasing habits can quietly damage one's mental, emotional, and even ph...
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a sinking feeling, like something wasn’t right? Maybe you felt taken advantage of or manipulated but couldn't pinpoint why. This feeling can hit especially hard if you tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, trust easily, or avoid conflict. If...
Understanding Emotion Regulation: A Guide to Healthier Emotional Responses
Emotion regulation is managing and responding to emotional experiences healthily and effectively. It’s not about changing how you feel but how you respond to those feelings. This involves understanding your emotions, staying...
Being nice and helping others should result in better relationships.
However, did you know that being overly nice or too helpful can disconnect you from those you want to be close to?
I'm not suggesting that you stop being kind, but if you find yourself constantly putting others' needs above yo...
As a people-pleaser, you may constantly prioritize others' needs above your own, often at the expense of your well-being. This pattern can lead to resentment, burnout, and strained relationships.
However, a powerful concept can help you strike a balance: loving detachment.
What is Loving Detachmen...
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