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9 Tips for Setting Better Boundaries boundaries people pleasing people-pleasers self-improvement Jul 03, 2024

 

As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk losing ...

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The Importance of Self-Love and Self-Compassion self-improvement self-worth Jun 24, 2024

Self-love and self-compassion are essential components of healing and forgiveness. By prioritizing these practices, we honor our own worth and value, paving the way for a more fulfilling and balanced life. In this blog post, we will explore the significance of self-love and self-compassion and offer...

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The Biggest Problem with People-Pleasing...and What to Do About It people pleasing people-pleasers self-improvement Jun 23, 2024

You can feel it deep inside. There is something missing but you don’t quite know what it is. 

You might feel scared that your friends or partner don’t really care about you. 

You might feel under (nearly) constant threat of making them mad or even leaving you.

Or maybe the problem is you don’t re...

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The Secret Connection Between People-Pleasing and Your Emotions people pleasing people-pleasers perspective self-improvement Jun 12, 2024

Many years ago I was at a self-development conference and the speaker said, “The quality of your life will depend on the amount of uncertainty you can tolerate.”

That quote stuck with me. I attended the conference in the early days of grad school and I often thought about how my anxiety would go up...

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How Self-Reflection Will Help You Overcome People-Pleasing emotional health people pleasing perspective self-improvement Jun 09, 2024

Turn your overthinking into self-reflection and overcome your people-pleasing habit.

If you are a people-pleaser, one of the things you do is overthink. 

  • You think about what others think of you a lot.
  • You worry whether someone is upset with you a lot.
  • You ruminate on how you could have done s...
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A Guide to Setting Boundaries boundaries people pleasing self-improvement May 22, 2024

I'm excited to share insights on a topic that's made a big difference in my life: setting boundaries. In a deep-dive conversation, I sat down with Melissa Wolak, an expert in boundary-setting.

Melissa highlighted that boundaries aren't just about saying no—they're a big yes to valuing our time and ...

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