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Have you ever found yourself agreeing to do something, only to regret it moments later? Maybe it’s taking on an extra project at work, volunteering for an event, or even saying yes to plans when all you really wanted was a quiet evening at home. It’s easy to fall into the habit of saying "yes" too o...
Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I've been going through a hard time recently. My mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness and I'm feeling overwhelmed and depressed. To make things worse my best friend has completely abandoned me. I can't believe she did this and it's making things even harder because I don't k...
Be honest — how often do you put everyone else’s needs before yours? Maybe you think taking time for yourself feels selfish, or maybe you're scared people will think you don’t care. Sound familiar?
Here's the truth: Caring for yourself doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human.
If you’re runnin...
Do you pride yourself on being the “go-to” person for everyone around you? Do you bend over backward to keep others happy—even if it leaves you feeling drained or unappreciated?
While it’s natural to want to help others, people-pleasing habits can quietly damage one's mental, emotional, and even ph...
Have you ever had one of those days when emotions seem to take over, making you feel out of control? Emotional dysregulation can deeply impact our daily lives and relationships, whether snapping at someone you love, feeling anxious or overwhelmed, or bottling up feelings until they burst. Understand...
We’ve all been there—caught in a frustrating situation, feeling emotions bubbling up to the surface and not knowing how to handle them. Whether it’s road rage in traffic, a stressful conversation at work, or an argument with a loved one, emotions can sometimes take over, leaving us reacting in ways ...
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