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Why Saying 'Yes' Too Often Could Be Draining Your Energy authenticity boundaries boundary setting people pleasing people-pleasers Jan 15, 2025

Have you ever found yourself agreeing to do something, only to regret it moments later? Maybe it’s taking on an extra project at work, volunteering for an event, or even saying yes to plans when all you really wanted was a quiet evening at home. It’s easy to fall into the habit of saying "yes" too o...

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Understanding and Healing When Friends Hurt You ask me anything authenticity boundaries effective communication people pleasing self-improvement Jan 12, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I've been going through a hard time recently. My mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness and I'm feeling overwhelmed and depressed. To make things worse my best friend has completely abandoned me. I can't believe she did this and it's making things even harder because I don't k...

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Prioritize Yourself Without Guilt: Why Self-Care Is the Ultimate Power Move boundary setting emotional health people pleasing Jan 08, 2025

Be honest — how often do you put everyone else’s needs before yours? Maybe you think taking time for yourself feels selfish, or maybe you're scared people will think you don’t care. Sound familiar?

Here's the truth: Caring for yourself doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you human.

If you’re runnin...

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How People-Pleasing Habits Are Holding You Back (and What to Do About It) authenticity boundaries people pleasing people-pleasers Dec 11, 2024

Do you pride yourself on being the “go-to” person for everyone around you? Do you bend over backward to keep others happy—even if it leaves you feeling drained or unappreciated?

While it’s natural to want to help others, people-pleasing habits can quietly damage one's mental, emotional, and even ph...

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Why Do We Lose Control of Our Emotions, and How Can We Find Balance? emotion regulation people pleasing Nov 27, 2024

Have you ever had one of those days when emotions seem to take over, making you feel out of control? Emotional dysregulation can deeply impact our daily lives and relationships, whether snapping at someone you love, feeling anxious or overwhelmed, or bottling up feelings until they burst. Understand...

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Mastering Emotion Regulation: How to Stay Calm and In Control emotion regulation emotional health people pleasing self-improvement Oct 08, 2024

We’ve all been there—caught in a frustrating situation, feeling emotions bubbling up to the surface and not knowing how to handle them. Whether it’s road rage in traffic, a stressful conversation at work, or an argument with a loved one, emotions can sometimes take over, leaving us reacting in ways ...

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