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Authentic Connections, Boundaries, and Relationships
Good Evening Dr. Julie, My husband and I are currently separated. He wants the divorce I do not. We are working together on figuring out the property end of things, but how do I set the boundary of not singing the divorce papers as what I feel and want matters too.
--Dodging Divorce
Dear Dodging: ...
As a people-pleaser, you may constantly prioritize others' needs above your own, often at the expense of your well-being. This pattern can lead to resentment, burnout, and strained relationships.
However, a powerful concept can help you strike a balance: loving detachment.
What is Loving Detachmen...
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As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk losing ...
Setting boundaries is very important to maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your well-being. However, it can be particularly challenging in toxic relationships where the other person may react negatively or try to manipulate you into feeling guilty. Despite these difficulties, staying f...
In a world where we often seek validation from others to feel good about ourselves, the journey towards self-acceptance and releasing the need for approval is crucial. How usually do we rely on others to affirm our worthiness, measuring our value by external standards?Ā
The quest for approval can b...
I'm excited to share insights on a topic that's made a big difference in my life: setting boundaries. In a deep-diveĀ conversation, I sat down with Melissa Wolak, an expert in boundary-setting.
MelissaĀ highlighted that boundaries aren't just about saying noā€”they're a big yes to valuing our time and ...
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