Have you ever been told you are selfish when just trying to set a boundary? Do you worry that others think you're selfish? If you’re a people-pleaser, this label can feel like a nightmare—often enough to make you question if setting boundaries is even worth it.

But the truth is...

Have you ever had a conversation that left you feeling confused, guilty, or even questioning your own memory? Sometimes, people use certain behaviors to influence others in ways that might not be very honest or healthy. Recognizing these signs can help you protect your feelings, set boundaries,...

Good Evening Dr. Julie, My husband and I are currently separated. He wants the divorce I do not. We are working together on figuring out the property end of things, but how do I set the boundary of not singing the divorce papers as what I feel and want matters too.

--Dodging Divorce

Dear Dodging:...

As a people-pleaser, you may constantly prioritize others' needs above your own, often at the expense of your well-being. This pattern can lead to resentment, burnout, and strained relationships.

However, a powerful concept can help you strike a balance: loving detachment.

What is Loving...

As a psychologist, I can't emphasize enough the importance of setting healthy boundaries in your life. Boundaries are not about building walls or shutting others out. Instead, they help you create a clear sense of self and build respect in your relationships. Without boundaries, you risk...

Setting boundaries is very important to maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your well-being. However, it can be particularly challenging in toxic relationships where the other person may react negatively or try to manipulate you into feeling guilty. Despite these difficulties,...