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A client of mine, Susie (not her real name) struggles with getting all the details in her life just right. Every time she misses deadlines, makes a typos, or loses something important, she feels ashamed and humiliated and asks questions like, âWhatâs wrong with me?â and âWhy am I so stupid?â She ask...
You don't need to apologize for something you didnât do, but you also donât want to disconnect. Here's what to do when you and your partner see the same moment in completely different ways.
A client of mine, Tammy (not her real name), is nearing retirement as a healthcare provider. She's caring, sm...
âI apologized. Why isn't my apology enough?â
Have you ever asked yourself that question? My client Cassie (not her real name) asked me that question during a recent coaching session. She was confused and hurt. The day before, her partner made a simple comment about how she handled a situation with ...
We all love a good ending.
Not just in obvious stories, like books and movies, but in everywhere in life: in relationships, in arguments, and in the stories we tell ourselves. We want the dots connected, the characters explained, and the lose ends tied up. And, it's a bonus if the story ends in a w...
Have you ever had one of those days when emotions seem to take over, making you feel out of control? Emotional dysregulation can deeply impact our daily lives and relationships, whether snapping at someone you love, feeling anxious or overwhelmed, or bottling up feelings until they burst. Understand...
Have you ever had a conversation that left you feeling confused, guilty, or even questioning your own memory? Sometimes, people use certain behaviors to influence others in ways that might not be very honest or healthy. Recognizing these signs can help you protect your feelings, set boundaries, and ...
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