There is a particular kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep.

It’s the tiredness of someone who has been paying close attention to everyone in their life except themselves. If you’ve felt it, you know what I mean. If you’ve tried to explain it to someone, you know how hard it is to put int...

You decline a request at work and spend the next few minutes at your desk going over everything you said wondering if it landed okay. You cancel plans with a friend and immediately follow up with a long explanation why you’re cancelling. You share an opinion, watch how the other person reacts, and s...

Do you have moments when things get tense and suddenly you just go blank? Someone says something that hurts, or asks for something you don’t want to give, or starts a conversation that makes your chest tighten. You open your mouth and…nothing comes out. Or, you agree to something you don’t want to a...

 If you have ever walked away from a conversation and thought, Why didn't I just say what I meant? you are not alone. A lot of smart, self-aware people find themselves doing things in relationships that they can't quite explain. They go silent when they need to speak up. They over-explain a simple r...

While the term “ghosting” has only been around since about the early 2000s, the act of ghosting (cutting off contact without warning) has been around much longer. By now most people have either had an experience of being ghosted or know someone who has. Whether it was you or a friend, the pain of be...

A client of mine, Susie (not her real name) struggles with getting all the details in her life just right. Every time she misses deadlines, makes a typos, or loses something important, she feels ashamed and humiliated and asks questions like, ‘What’s wrong with me?’ and ‘Why am I so stupid?’ She ask...