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Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me...
Dear Dr. Julie: Not sure if this is the right place for this question, but how do you help someone who doesn’t believe they need help? My adult daughter, who lives with me, has a mild intellectual disability, ADHD, and may have other genetic disorders we’re getting her tested...
Hi Dr. Julie, I am currently separated and going through the divorce process. I don't want the divorce, but my husband's affair partner just moved in from Tennessee, and they've only been dating for five months. My boys are struggling with all of this and just want the family to stay...
I received the following question from a community member:
Dear Dr. Julie, I feel inadequate most of the time. I graduated from high school in 1965. I've worked a variety of jobs, including 13 years with the federal government across three different agencies, and retired in 2002. I...
Dear Dr. Julie, I caught my husband talking to another female twice. He changed his number because he said he wants to salvage our marriage. I don’t know if I feel the same way anymore. He’s hurt me so many times after we got married. He has disappeared on me for days, wasted so...
Good Evening Dr. Julie, My husband and I are currently separated. He wants the divorce I do not. We are working together on figuring out the property end of things, but how do I set the boundary of not singing the divorce papers as what I feel and want matters too.
--Dodging Divorce
Dear Dodging:...
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