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Are You a Priority or an Option? How to Tell the Difference. ask me anything effective communication self-worth toxic relationships Feb 09, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie: I caught feelings for a guy. I’m in America, and he’s in Africa. He says there’s no rush for a relationship. At first, I thought we were dating, but him saying that is confusing.

Now I’m at a point where I feel kinda foolish, like he had a change of heart and I was never his type fr...

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How to Handle Being Ghosted ama ask me anything relationship advice relationship tips toxic relationships Jan 05, 2025

Dear Dr. Julie, How do you cope with ghosting and moving on when you were left with no apartment, no money, no car, no savings, and he took it all? The last text was December 2nd and I don't know how to survive this. I was in a committed relationship of 4 years, now I'm single.

--Totally Devastated...

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Break Free From Toxic Relationships Cycles and Find Healthy Love ama ask me anything healthy relationships relationship advice relationship tips self-worth toxic relationships Nov 10, 2024

Dear Dr. Julie: Hi, I keep feeling like I’m not good enough because I’ve only been in toxic relationships—ones I knew would end, with guys who used me for emotional support. I want to feel like I’m enough, like I have it all together to be with someone who truly values me and lets me be chased. How ...

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Why Asking Your Spouse to Come Home Won’t Fix Your Family ask me anything relationship advice toxic relationships Oct 20, 2024

Hi Dr. Julie, I am currently separated and going through the divorce process. I don't want the divorce, but my husband's affair partner just moved in from Tennessee, and they've only been dating for five months. My boys are struggling with all of this and just want the family to stay together. How d...

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Is My Marriage Worth Saving? One Woman’s Dilemma and My Advice ama ask me anything marriage relationship advice toxic relationships Oct 06, 2024

Dear Dr. Julie, I caught my husband talking to another female twice. He changed his number because he said he wants to salvage our marriage. I don’t know if I feel the same way anymore. He’s hurt me so many times after we got married. He has disappeared on me for days, wasted so much money on drugs ...

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Recovering From Infidelity ama ask me anything relationship advice relationship tips toxic relationships Jul 13, 2024

Dear Dr. Julie: I discovered my husband had cheated on me with a (supposed) woman on the internet. He says she lives in Tennessee and nothing happened physically. As it turns out she was scamming him for money, which he sent to her. I can get over that part, it’s the things he texted her, like I lov...

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